As I write this now, I realize that Adam should be given a pass for his actions. Adam was my first date from It's Just Lunch, and I think the anger he showed was really towards the service, and not me, at least I think. The first thing he said to me when he walked in was 'Why are you sitting, we aren't eating, I thought this was only drinks." Then, I was completely offended, but now I see there is a flaw in this dating service. See, they make a reservation under your name, which assumes for the restaurant at least, you will be eating. Now we all know that dinner on a first date is a bold move, so I'm not sure why It's Just Lunch does it. They should just tell you, "Meet at this place," but they don't. There's a lot this service doesn't do.
So I'll go back to my first impression. Wow- I got yelled at for sitting--this can NOT be a good sign. Adam, from what I was told, was a managing editor at a popular magazine, a "fun" guy and he liked to play guitar.
Side note- when I was on the phone with my "consultant," I told him I was trying to be fairly open-minded, however, I find that I really don't mesh well with the Brooklyn, hipster type.
Following, please to enjoy the transcript of what has been so far, the shortest date I have ever had:
7:00--as you know already, I get yelled out for sitting down. Adam, btw, is 40 and has a Justin Beiber haircut and wore a decorative scarf throughout the entire date.
7:09--Me: where do you live? Him : Brooklyn (great)
7:10--Me: I hear you are an editor, I'm into writing. I've taken a bunch of sketch writing classes at The PIT and UCB and I loved it and... Him (cutting me off): oh
7:10 and 5 sec---(I'm about to just get up and leave, but I decided not to a) because it's a good lesson and b) I knew I would have a good story)
7:15-- after awkward banter we decide we both like Top Chef. Other than that show however, he only watches PBS and really "digs" the old cooking shows from the 70s.
7:16-- Me: vomiting
7:19-- It was silent so I asked "What do you like to do for fun." Him: "What do you describe as fun?" Me: Not this (I didn't say that but should have.)
Finally around 7:21 he tells me he is very socially awkward and doesn't get out much (shocking) however he is really into butchery. He only thinks he could butcher small animals, not larger ones.
7:20-- Me: OK, I need to catch a train- I'm out Him: Goes in for the awkward hug.
7:40- Me: eating Penn station pizza like it's my job.
I'm not kidding, it was a 20 minute date..maybe 30...tops! It was the worst because he was just a prick in every sense of the word. It would have been cool if he was like, "Look, obviously we aren't connecting, but let's at least enjoy a drink." Actually, it would have been cooler if I said it. And I should have.
I recently read this book "How to get married after 35" (don't judge- it was actually good) and the premise was to not waste time on guys who aren't worth your time. Not even to regale your friends with the silly stories on a blog. If you have been reading my blog, you can see that I tend to hang on way to long to wait for the guy to be cool, nice, funny, etc., but it never happens. Lesson here, something I need to learn: Once the date goes south, just leave. IF the guy is worth it, he will reach out to you for another shot. If not, your gut instinct was right...which it usually is.
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